The Born Losers
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IMDB rating: 5.60 Plot: A malicious motorcycle gang harasses the residents of a small California town, intimidating most residents to not report them to the police. Among the gang’s crimes is the rape of four young women. As the gang attempts to threaten the women into not testifying at the indictment hearing, one of the women, Vicki, comes under the protection of Billy Jack, who has also had several altercations with the gang. The gang escalates their pressure on both Vicki and Billy Jack to keep her out of the courtroom. |
Actors: Laughlin Tom,Slate Jeremy,Wellman Jr. William,Starrett Jack,Bruce Paul,Cleaves Robert,Prokop Paul,Tessier Robert,Cooper Jeff,Lancaster Stuart,Hoban Gordon,Action,Drama,Thriller,
I'm feeling depressed because my social life is rubbish? Mature answers Please?
My social life is terrible. My weekends consist of nothing other than waking up at midday or later, sitting home and surfing the internet and watching films. This is really making me depressed. I do have a few close friends, but lately it seems like they don’t get in contact with me at all (don’t know why) Maybe I am boring, but I don’t think I am. Anyway my friends are my main problem, because I rarely see them and when I do, it’s the same old friends i’ve had since school and to be honest they actually bore me, and I want to find new friends, but don’t know how.
I haven’t got a job, because I lost my last one. I made friends at my other job, but Didn’t stay in contact with any of them. I also suffer from anxiety, especially around lots of people. I get very nervous and think everyone is talking about me, and I actually care what people think about me, which makes me more anxious.
I don’t really contact my friends much and when I do their either busy or it seems like they don’t have time for me. I don’t understand this, because i’ve never done anything bad to them. The one friend I used to go clubbing with, Is now seeing his old friend from college. They seem to go clubbing together alot now with his girlfriend and group and it seems as though i’m left out. He never contacts me about clubbing etc.. But I feel such a loser for having only one friend to go clubbing with. I do have another friend, but He is always negative all the time and puts his worries onto me, because he is always paranoid. I mean i’m 21 years old and it seems, so it’s not as if i’m a teenager.
Please any advice, would be much appreciated, thanks.
Dear Alex,
I don’t know if you will appreciate my advice, but anyway, you might find it helpful.
I’m about 12 years older than you, so I can say I know a little bit more about life than you and your friends, but this doesn’t mean I want to patronise.
The and first main thing, Alex, is to develop your inner strength, so that you won’t depend on somebody else to make you happy. Secondly, you must find some genuine interests. It could be anything – music, photography, arts, sport, nature. It just have to be something that you really enjoy doing, and then you must take it further, develop it, stretching yourself and overcoming the boundaries. That will give an opportunity to meet and mix with similar minded people, and help you a lot in your life in general and your future career. It is a shame that you are so young and, judging by your question, intelligent and mature, waste so much time by getting up late and watching films.
Most of careers are built in the early twenties, and the life is shaped in your age, too. So it’s up to you how you want your future to be and what to do with your time now. Surely you won’t spend your lifetime surfing the net without any purpose?
I know I’m not answering your question now, which is about your friends and your social life, but I’m afraid this is not the main thing you needs to be focusing on now. Friends and social life will come on their own, as a package with a new life, when you take care of the main thing, which a purpose in life. I know you are young and want to go clubbing, but hey, you still have a lot of time ahead of you for that. Don’t waste your time hanging out with negative people, and clinging to other friends who clearly have moved on. Just enjoy life, look for experience, adventure, and find interesting things to do, OK?
Vicky | Jan 22, 2010
set small goals for yourself. U say you are trying to make new friends.? You want to get out to new places. Than do it but move slow set small goals.
Cush | Jan 22, 2010
It could be that they just think that you dont need them or something…
I have the same problem kind of. Like.. my friends that I do have they bore me. Just call any friend that you know of and just ask them if they want to go to a club with you. When you do go clubbing just talk to different people. Try getting to know people at the club so you can really have someone that you know will want to go with you.
And if you have confidence issues… well, there’s always drugs. But don’t resort to that unless you really are too scared and just can’t do it. But only do that as a last resort.
euphoric | Jan 22, 2010
hey
find new friends online
you can meet new people on facebook or other networking sites
you could find people with similar intrests as you
try and get a new job..you cnt sit at home alll day!
ask you friend if you can come along one time ( clubbing ) then prove to him that you are a great mate to be around!
if this doesnt wrk..then its his loss
or join a club maybe..or go to the gym..erm
mel m | Jan 22, 2010
Vicky said it best, you really do need to build a life for yourself instead of wasting it the way you are doing now. You could speak to your doctor about your anxiety etc, and hopefully you will get the proper help and advice to enable you to make a better, more fulfilled life for yourself. Even start up a college course as that’s a great way of meeting new friends while improving your job prospects. I hope you make the changes soon and can live a more happier life, good luck!
Jesse Ashley